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Your Child’s Friends…Don’t Like?

It’s a challenge most of us face at least one time — not approving of our child’s friend, or group of friends.

When our children are at a younger age, toddlers to elementary school, we can have great influence on whom they see, and ultimately whom may become their best friends. But as they get older we see them less, and they become more independent. It is part of the maturing process, and picking friends is part of that process. We may still want to jump in, but knowing how and when is key.

My husband has a lot more tolerance than I do, and often reminds me that many issues or childhood habits that bother me are quite minor in the big picture of life. And over the years I think I have become more open minded if a friend of one of our children does something off beat, or has an annoying habit. What we have found works best is the open communication…talk to your child about the friends “issue” that is bothering you. Maybe there is another side or aspect you were unaware of. And maybe your child was unaware themselves.

Of course all of this depends greatly on the issue. If it is something dangerous or illegal you must take a harder stance…for the safety of your child. Many times your child may actually take that message and try to discuss the concerns with their friend. Nobody likes to see a friend take the wrong path. On the lighter issues…clothing, hair, piercings (ok, I admit this one is still edgy for me), speech, etc…try to let them go. It’s still ok if you want to discuss it with your child, but don’t make it accusatory.

A good point that Dr David Walsh (Author of ‘No: Why Kids of All Ages Need to Hear It and Ways Parents Can Say It.’) makes is that “forbidding friends can backfire”. Your child may continue to see that friend and delve into the behavior or habit you don’t like themselves. More of his interview can be seen here on WCCO news ‘What To Do If You Don’t Like Your Child’s Friends’

In the end the best thing to do is focus on your own child’s behaviors and habits. Bring them up to be positive role models to their peers and younger children. Hopefully their good habits and behavior will be the one that many of their friends emulate.

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“Give Back with Barbie Cares” a fun way for moms and daughters to help advance recycling.

“Give Back with Barbie Cares” a fun way for moms and daughters to help advance recycling.

Barbie is famous for her signature pink outfits, but she’s teaming up with Wal-Mart to go green. We’re inviting customers to have fun while contributing to a more sustainable future with “Give Back with Barbie Cares,” an in-store event Saturday Nov. 8. Moms, daughters and Barbie lovers can bring in their Barbie dolls to be used in a pilot program exploring toy recyclability at participating toy departments from noon to 3 p.m. Furthermore, for each doll collected, Mattel will donate a new doll to a local children’s hospital, up to 100,000 dolls.Customers should also bring their digital cameras to snap a picture with Barbie and receive a coupon to print a free 4×6” photo from the Kodak Picture Maker that same day. Other Barbie-themed give-aways will be on hand, while supplies last.

One thousand stores will host a live Barbie and 2,000 will have a standee.

Click here for more information and a list of stores participating